I don't usually talk about issues relating to same sex attraction and gay marriage on this blog. This a great big glob of reasons:
It can be incredibly hard to communicate some things with perfect charity and clarity - this conversation brings up a lot of those things.
I'm afraid of someone finding it, sharing it with their supporters, and then getting hate mail. (Seriously, a woman I know wrote about homosexuality and then got emails from people saying they wanted to rape and murder her kids.)
I love and have good relationships with several people who are gay. I don't know if they read this blog or not but I never, ever, ever want my space to be a place where they would ever feel disrespected, bullied, or insulted.
Now, I wholeheartedly submit to the teachings of the Catholic Church: sex is only for marriage and marriage is a holy sacrament, meant for one man and one woman. Marriage is for a lifetime, it should be faithful, and it should be filled with life. I believe these teachings to be true and right and good, even if living them out can sometimes be hard, and maybe even painful. Maybe even lonely.
I am not attracted to women and so I don't know what that would feel like- to have the Church and therefore God my Creator tell me that I can't marry the person I love. I suppose it would be a similar feeling for a divorced woman who wants to remarry but cannot because her first marriage was valid. I suppose it would feel painful and lonely.
When it comes to issues of sex and sin and I tend to live by the belief that sexual sin is sexual sin. I shouldn't commit it, neither should you, and otherwise I'll leave most everything else up to God. But I will put my foot down when people make homosexuality* out to be a bigger sin than any other. Maybe, in some cases, it is. Sometimes, in some cases, it isn't. Perhaps that man with his porn, or that woman who is sleeping around, or that couple who is contracepting are worse sinners than those men who got married during the Rose Parade. Weighing that is one of the things I am leaving to God, but I know that the Church does not teach that homosexuality is the worst sin.
My post on television show recommendations got a comment that I felt was uncharitable towards people with same sex attraction. I responded in a way that also lacked charity. A couple other people commented in completely respectable ways but I went ahead and deleted all of them. The post was supposed to just be a fun list of tv shows, not a commentary on what shows may or may not push agendas. I do apologize to the commenter for jumping to such harsh conclusions and I hope that she will forgive me.
I also hope that people will understand that in this place it is okay to discuss Church teaching and homosexuality and culture but that we must all strive to be careful with our words and intentions and the conclusions we jump to. I hope you will help me to master the virtues needed for that and I hope we will all speak first with charity.
* UPDATE to clarify: being attracted to someone of the same sex is not a sin.
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