This time is all started with a jerk of a woman...
Mom had L and Travis and I decided to have one more date night. I decided I wanted Chinese to see if it would help bring on the pain. I was already having contractions but we didn't want them to die off, so armed with a towel, we made our way to the buffet. As we entered the restaurant a gray haired woman, at a table full of women, saw me and loudly said, "Jesus Christ!" She then turned to the other women and whispered and nodded at my belly. All of them stared. She made me so mad... But I was really big.
By the time we got home we knew it was time to start timing the contractions. We knew it was the night so we called Bernice, got in bed and slept between contractions. Attending this birth was Bernice, my midwife; Kim, the leader of my LLL chapter and Bernice's birth assistant; Katie B, our good friend; and my mom would come at pushing time, L in tow.
I had hoped to not labor through the night again but this time around the back labor was very limited so it wasn't as bad, and everyone seemed pretty confident that this labor and delivery would be shorter and easier. In the middle of the night we went for a walk to speed things up, I took a bath, slept some more, got sick a couple of times, and by the morning we were all pretty confident that the baby would be born by 10am.
But we experienced some problems. First, as my body was getting tired and I was beginning to feel the urge to push part of my cervix was not completely open. The baby was moving down but couldn't get through because of it. We tried a variety of positions, with Bernice holding back the lip, but in the end I was too exhausted and too, um, backed up. I must say that Bernice's positioning was quite brave since my water still had not broken. All I wanted to do was lay down and fall asleep but Kim and Bernice wouldn't let me. I believe I also asked them at this time if they had an epidural. The pain wasn't as bad as it had been with L, but my body felt too tired to deal with it and work through the contractions. Alas, there was no epidural in the birthing supplies.
However, there was an enema, which was administered on the bathroom floor. They told me to try to hold it in as long as possible, but that was just crazy talk. As soon as Bernice was done I leaped off the floor and onto the toilet. After a bit I started to bear down and leaping off the toilet cried, "This isn't poop anymore!"
The next part I don't remember very well. I think I was kneeling for a little bit as I pushed out his head. I was so proud of myself, too, because I went slowly so I wouldn't tear like I did with L. I remember Bernice having me reach down to feel his head as a way to encourage me, and Travis telling me that he had a cute face. It was painful and I know I was crying out, but it was about to get worse.
Both of his shoulders ended up getting stuck. This meant that Bernice had to reach up and free him while I was pushing. I know I was standing with my knees bent and I was hollering in pain. At one point I think I screamed out to Mother Mary, but I'm not sure what I said. I think it was a prayer, though. I know that my mom took L outside because it was too hard for her to hear me in so much pain and she didn't want L to become scared. I know Katie, who was supposed to be taking pictures, looked unsure and worried. Travis' body tensed a bit; Bernice and Kim became faster and more stern with their directions. I remember thinking, "My baby is going to die because of this."
When he did come out Bernice lifted him up to me. I turned him on his side and we started rubbing his back. His heart rate was checked and it was still strong, but he wasn't crying. Just as Kim went to get the oxygen, though, he started up and everyone was relieved. I looked down to see that he was a baby boy and then asked if I could sit down.
Travis cut the cord. The afterbirth came out without any problems. Mom was summoned and L came in to see her new brother - although she didn't quite know what he was or where he came from. Baby boy and I got cleaned up a bit and went to the bed to rest while things were picked up. At that point Travis and I talked about the name.
As you probably know, we were originally going to name him Bennet, which was our boy name for L and is a nod to the pope and my grandpa Benno. But when we learned of several other Bennets we changed to Kolbe. But recently we dropped Kolbe; Travis wanted to use Joseph and I wanted to go back to Bennet. As we sat on the bed we played Paper, Rock, Scissor to see who would get their way. Travis won 2 out of 3 but then said that after all I went through I earned the right to name him.
Bennet Mark weighed 10lbs 11oz. He is 21.75" long. His head is 14" and chest 15" in circumference. He latched on right away and is a great nurser. His pinky toes are crooked and all his toes are long and thin. He had hands like his Grandpa E and the nose of a Fandel. L can say his name and it is so, so, so cute.
My afterpains are horrible - they travel all the way down to my knees - and my bottom is sore. With all the extra work that came from his shoulders I ended up needing some stitches. Other than that I feel good as long as I don't have to walk any further than to the bathroom. I've already lost 21lbs, but I still have 30 to go! I'll have to not eat too much of the plum birth day cake Katie made, though.
Thank you so much for all your prayers and warm wishes. God bless you!
I am so proud of you Bonnie. You are amazing beyond words. Congratulations to you and your family. Love you immensely. - HeddaReplyDelete
You did it again my friend, BRAVO! So glad he's latching on so well, hope you heal quickly! Love you so much.ReplyDelete
I love reading birth stories, thank you for sharing yours. Congratulations on the new addition and I'm glad that you were able to labor and delivery in the manner that you wanted, that is such a satisfying feeling. Many prayers your way!ReplyDelete
So, so, so happy for you!! I love you all and can't wait to meet Bennet Mark.ReplyDelete
Thank you for sharing the story. I think it's so interesting how every person's experience is so unique. Plus, I love that Lydia says his name. You'll have to post a video of that. So proud of you. Love, EmReplyDelete
Congratulations on Bennet Mark!!! I love how that name sounds. You and Travis chose such nice names for all of your babies. Sounds like you went through a lot and came through it really well. You're an amazing person, and you have some very lucky children there. They have a very strong and brave mommy - that's for sure! God bless your beautiful family! You guys are in my thoughts and prayers!ReplyDelete
Way to go Bonnie! I'm so happy for you (and I feel proud of you - is that weird?) You're an inspiration, especially given the trials of your last labor. May God bless your family!ReplyDelete
Oh, Bonnie...I've been checking your blog a lot more faithfully lately, just waiting for this post to arrive. God bless you, girl! You did it! What a big boy you have - no wonder his shoulders got stuck and your bottom hurts. I'm overjoyed for you (have tears in my eyes, in fact). I'll keep praying for each of you as you adjust to being a family of four. BTW - I love his name. Strong, meaningful to you, and great for a boy as well as a man. Blessings to you, Travis, and Lydia.ReplyDelete
Wow did you bring back memories for me! (nursing school ones) my babies all ended up cesarian even though we tried "regular" deliveries with the first too. When you talked about afterbirth pains I could feel them again! And hearing a baby cry still makes me want to nurse! I'm so glad you are all healthy! You will have to let us know if you come to town so we can meet Lydia and Bennet.ReplyDelete
Congratulations Bonnie! Wow what a birth story! Sounds like you are one strong willed mama. I am amazed that you naturally home-birthed a 10 pound baby. I had a 10 pounder and I couldn't have done it without my epidural. Way to harness your super mommy powers. (; Love the name Bennet.ReplyDelete
Welcome to the world Bennet! Congratulations family! You are all so blessed.ReplyDelete
You gotta love Justin. He was reading this with me and saw the picture of you pre-birth (belly and all!) and his comment was, "She's not any bigger than you are, Sarah. The only bad thing is that she is about to deliver and you still have 6 weeks to go full term. C'mere let me take your picture and we can compare!" I think you looked great!ReplyDelete
Congratulations! He is so sweet & you are one brave woman!ReplyDelete
I love birth stories! :) I just now read this one because I haven't had internet for awhile. I totally feel your pain with the shoulder issue - the same thing happened with Aiden. I remember being SUPER sore from that for a long time.ReplyDelete